Comments on Bloorb: Are YOU Nervous?

I usually ask "Are you excited?" but maybe that's ...

2009-11-02T06:30:52.373-08:00

I usually ask "Are you excited?" but maybe that's just as annoying! I can't imagine asking "Are you nervous?" since I want to be pregnant and I wouldn't want people to ask me that.

I love your attitude. I think you will do wonderfully!!

I am so with you on this. I'm due a day or two aft...

2009-11-01T09:06:45.944-08:00

I am so with you on this. I'm due a day or two after you and have been bombarded with the "are you nervous?" comments and my approach is almost identical to yours. Labor will proceed as it will proceed and there's no use working myself up over it now, but it's the parenting part, taking care of this helpless creature that I'm nervous about! And like you I don't want

A few days after Min Man came home and hubby went ...

2009-11-01T05:48:25.691-08:00

A few days after Min Man came home and hubby went back to work and I was ALONE. I remember thinking, even after all I had been through to get to that point, what have I gotten myself into? That sood faded though as we got into a schedule and I got used to my life being different and BETTER.

I could have written those words myself! I tried ...

2009-10-31T20:19:42.423-07:00

I could have written those words myself! I tried to tell people - labor is going to be a finite period of time. No matter how bad it is, it has an end.

Once the baby is born, it is FOREVER. Now THAT is scary.

Although, so far it hasn't been that bad . . .

The long-distance runner mentality will help a TON...

2009-10-31T20:09:55.603-07:00

The long-distance runner mentality will help a TON. Use it! Labor is like a marathon.

And you'll be fine.

Ditto! People keep asking me the same thing: I'm h...

2009-10-31T12:08:25.635-07:00

Ditto! People keep asking me the same thing: I'm honestly not...probably for the same reasons you said.

One person actually asked my mom if I am seriously this calm about giving birth. My response, the kid has got to come out, what's the point in making my self stressed?

I think we'll be fine. Just as we did what we had to to get pregnant, we'll do what we

I have two great labor stories to tell with no hor...

2009-10-31T12:01:23.478-07:00

I have two great labor stories to tell with no horror or warnings attached. In fact, I had a single baby and then had twins and did not have any drugs for either.

Prior to delivery, my midwife said that the women who do the best in labor are the ones who are mentally retarded -- the reason is because they don't THNK about it and get all worked up over being nervous.

I agree...denial is awesome! I had a very hard tim...

2009-10-31T10:17:35.822-07:00

I agree...denial is awesome! I had a very hard time wrapping my head around giving birth to not one, but two babies! One after the other!

But I know nothing of labour. I was too posh to push due to an unruly placenta. Why do I feel the need to qualify that?

I probably have shared with you how frightening the experience was, but when you have blood gushing out of your

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with Lemy....

2009-10-31T06:27:31.436-07:00

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with Lemy. I approached labor with an open mind, acknowledging it was going to hurt and be rough, etc. And when I went into labor I just handled everything as it came and it was FINE. It hurt, and it was rough at points but it was a means to an end.

People try to scare you to make themselves feel better about their own experience. There us

People can be idiots sometimes. What's the point ...

2009-10-31T01:04:54.073-07:00

People can be idiots sometimes. What's the point in trying to make you nervous? I have been lucky that people haven't told me very many horror stories (or asked me "are you nervous?" - maybe that is still in my future). But if they do I shut them down right away - "I don't need to hear that now."

I am not particularly nervous about labor. As

The taking a baby home scared me so much more than...

2009-10-30T21:09:03.812-07:00

The taking a baby home scared me so much more than labor. They can give you delicious drugs for labor pains. Nothing takes away the responsibility of raising that tiny creature that calls you mom.

I was in denial and people tried to get me all wor...

2009-10-30T20:22:27.250-07:00

I was in denial and people tried to get me all worked up. It was something I had never experienced and I didn’t feel there was any point to trying to imagine what it would be like since so many people said the pain was like no other. I just wanted to enjoy the end of my pregnancy without worrying about my labor. For ME I think that was the best way to deal with it. I didn’t acknowledge I was in

um, you must be slipping...you called it a 'baby'

2009-10-30T19:25:34.327-07:00

um, you must be slipping...you called it a 'baby'

Honesty, I had a similar attitude and I felt prep...

2009-10-30T18:48:55.552-07:00

Honesty, I had a similar attitude and I felt prepared enough for labor and actually had a decent labor and delivery. I think a lot does depend on your attitude going into it (and in full disclosure I did get an epi but they set it low enough so I could feel the contracts and knew to push). What I was not prepared for was post partum...

I've lived with chronic pain for 16 years. The maj...

2009-10-30T17:39:43.751-07:00

I've lived with chronic pain for 16 years. The majority of that drug-free, mostly because until recently, there have been no effective drugs for it.

Laboring for 36 hours with maxed pitocin and no drugs for the majority of that felt no different to me that any of my usual flares, so much that I couldn't tell I was in labor at all or when I was having a contraction.

I think you have the right attitude. I only had t...

2009-10-30T17:35:04.851-07:00

I think you have the right attitude. I only had two things on my "labor plan" sheet. 1- no pitocin 2- I didn't want an episiotomy unless they were sure I was going to rip.

Well, my water broke but I didn't ever go into labor so they HAD to give me pitocin. And, they had to suction Katherine (for reasons I won't go into here) out and in putting their attention on

Sometimes denial is a good thing. Why worry until...

2009-10-30T17:19:32.613-07:00

Sometimes denial is a good thing. Why worry until you have to?

All I can say about labor is that it is what I ima...

2009-10-30T17:11:54.328-07:00

All I can say about labor is that it is what I imagine chronic pain to be like. Any pain I've had before has been momentary, and I can usually make it stop by moving or something. Labor is not like that. But, you can tough it out or get the drugs, so there's nothing really to be scared of there (barring complications, of course, but there's no sense in worrying about those until