Comments on Bloorb: Why I Don't Talk About It

For if relaxing, drinking half a bottle of wine, a...

2007-11-08T04:42:00.000-08:00

For if relaxing, drinking half a bottle of wine, and having crazy horny sex with my husband would make me pregnant, I should have half-a-dozen babies by now. And, oopsie, I don't.

I'm not talking to my family either at the moment. None of them have said anything particularly crass as such, but the 'not being got' thing was wearign me out. So much sympathy.

After I got pregnant I had to remind my mother tha...

2007-11-06T18:59:00.000-08:00

After I got pregnant I had to remind my mother that it was because I'd had surgery to remove endometriosis and not, as she asserted, because I was so 'relaxed and happy'. I swear the disease and surgery escaped her mind completely. You know, even my acupuncturist who deals with infertility with 50% of his clients suggested to me to go out to dinner with my husband, have a nice bottle of wine... I

Assvice. How I hate thee. (((HUGS)))

My mot...

2007-11-06T17:01:00.000-08:00

Assvice. How I hate thee. (((HUGS)))

My mother is a nurse but she was also a fertile myrtle so just because you have a degree doesn't automatically give you the sensitivity chip. Most medical personnel don't get it from my experience. They might try in their own way but they just don't.

I agree with Courtney - next time she has a serious problem, tell her to "relax" and just go

Having a mother that doesn't get it is definitely ...

2007-11-06T16:51:00.000-08:00

Having a mother that doesn't get it is definitely tough. I have one too, and while I love her dearly, she does not understand IF at all.

Wouldn't it be great if all it took to get pregnant was nice bottle of wine and some fun sex? Unfortunately we passed that point of this journey about 2 years ago.

HUGS! :)

I don't know what I'd do if my mother ever told me...

2007-11-06T14:36:00.000-08:00

I don't know what I'd do if my mother ever told me to go have horny sex. I never even got a sex talk when I was a teenager....wait....maybe that's why I can't get knocked up...no one ever told me how?!?!

My mum's a nurse too, and...yeah, I hear you.
I...

2007-11-06T11:45:00.000-08:00

My mum's a nurse too, and...yeah, I hear you.
I got soooo frustrated at her lack of getting it after miscarrying my longest pregnancy that I shut her out. Completely.
We talk now but not like we used to. It is hard. I know she loves me. Perhaps I expect too much.

And four days!............Are you mad?

Well, from a "medical person's" point of view, no,...

2007-11-06T11:29:00.000-08:00

Well, from a "medical person's" point of view, no, they don't "get it." I've been in the medical field for 5 yrs now and unless someone has either 1)experienced IF or 2)educated themselves about IF, then they don't and won't ever get it. Just b/c you're a nurse doesn't mean you know everything--after all, you have to have a dr. tell you what to do (sorry, not nice). I just think you need some

Yesh! What a craptastic load of BS.
Love the ho...

2007-11-06T11:28:00.000-08:00

Yesh! What a craptastic load of BS.
Love the horny sex part...ha! Like that works...;0)

YES--in answer to your kind gesture on my blog-Id love to hear more details about your experience with the lap. Thanks!!

Sorry Chicklet. I wish that you didn't have to go...

2007-11-06T09:04:00.000-08:00

Sorry Chicklet. I wish that you didn't have to go through this with a family member, especially The Mother!
The whole process is exhausting - the physical, emotional, and the social! I still can't get through to some people.
I think that if the drunken sex thing would work, I'd have a minivanful and so would everyone else in this slice of the blogosphere.
No assvice here, just

AWESOME - so your mohter suggests horhy/drunk sex....

2007-11-06T08:14:00.000-08:00

AWESOME - so your mohter suggests horhy/drunk sex. Is that in a mother/daughter assvice handbook. My mother suggested that also

ooo, i like family of 2's idea to tell her that me...

2007-11-06T07:27:00.000-08:00

ooo, i like family of 2's idea to tell her that menopause is all in her head!
sorry your mom isn't being very supportive....yet indignant that she is. i found that the most supportive people were the unexpected ones.

I agree... trying to educate the ones that just DO...

2007-11-06T05:56:00.000-08:00

I agree... trying to educate the ones that just DONT GET IT is often far more trouble than its worth. Those that WANT to get it will often educate themselves (at least to the level that they don't dare utter the "relax" assvice. Those others... yeah, screw 'em!

And I agree with Samantha, this is about YOU, how YOU feel about it, how YOU handle it.

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

SISTER OF MINE! I didn't know mom had another chi...

2007-11-06T05:46:00.000-08:00

SISTER OF MINE! I didn't know mom had another child she gave up for adoption and didn't tell us about! Welcome to the family

Ok, seriously, my sisters adn I all work in the medical field...and let me tell you THEY DONT GET IT. They think because their uterus' work like they should that I should get over mine. They don't get it. They never will get it. Ugh.

OOH and I love

Well said.

I'm sorry your mom doesn't get i...

2007-11-06T05:44:00.000-08:00

Well said.

I'm sorry your mom doesn't get it. If it helps, mine doesn't either. So I don't bother even trying to educate her - not worth the effort.

*HUG*

Boy, for a nurse, it sounds like your mom really j...

2007-11-06T05:34:00.000-08:00

Boy, for a nurse, it sounds like your mom really just wants to make you an alcoholic!

There are folks out there who can empathize and who can "get it," but sometimes they are few and far between. I have also found that getting the "relax" type of the remarks from people who really SHOULD know better makes them hurt all the more. You are so right - you need to do what you need to

Oh -I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I kno...

2007-11-06T05:06:00.000-08:00

Oh -I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I know what you mean though -- I'm sure many of us do. Thanks goodness we have each other in here in blogland. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have someone to communicate with you gets it and thanks to the great WWW I found lots of people.

I've been waiting for it - cuz I know her &...

2007-11-05T20:34:00.000-08:00

I've been waiting for it - cuz I know her & cuz I know you & I'm glad I wasn't there - I have my own fair share of squeaky voice moments.

...well said.

the sister

Hear, hear.

I'm still going to have a beer ...

2007-11-05T20:23:00.000-08:00

Hear, hear.

I'm still going to have a beer and hopeful shag in a couple of weeks though...

;)

J

So sorry that you are having to deal with insensit...

2007-11-05T20:09:00.000-08:00

So sorry that you are having to deal with insensitive BS from people who are close to you (familial wise anyway). It just seems like a no win situation with those that don't get it.

Next time the mother says she is having a bad day, just tell her to get drunk and have horny sex. Same difference!