Comments on Bloorb: Still Not Sure

Of course you feel like this! You've just been su...

2009-10-26T23:40:40.023-07:00

Of course you feel like this! You've just been sucked out of one life, are about to be thrust into another, and you are currently in a limbo. This transition period has got to be hard. Hang in there!

Agreeing with Emily - I think the "purgatory" anal...

2009-10-25T22:50:29.021-07:00

Agreeing with Emily - I think the "purgatory" analogy is a good one. You're in that weird in-between identities stage. But yeah - little one will be here soon and then I think the world -and your role in it - will become more clear to you.

Isnt' it crazy that you actually miss the work? Th...

2009-10-25T16:42:21.412-07:00

Isnt' it crazy that you actually miss the work? Theres a major question in life that you now have answered. When Min Man came home, it was a difficult adjustment. But, everything worked out and feeling fulfilled both as a person and as a mother put me back in balance.

As much as I wanted to be home and I'm happy I'm h...

2009-10-25T12:53:43.135-07:00

As much as I wanted to be home and I'm happy I'm home, I still struggled with not working. I made huge projects for myself so I'd have something to talk about when Josh got home.

I remember once being at a friend's house before we had kids and she kept begging me to read Utne Reader with her. To start our own Utne Reader discussion group. I didn't totally get

I'm still at work. And I am so exhausted and zomb...

2009-10-24T23:56:31.822-07:00

I'm still at work. And I am so exhausted and zombie-like that it is really, really hard to get things done. That is hitting me in the ego in a way that is somewhat similar (I think) to what you are talking about. For example yesterday (Saturday) I had to go in in the afternoon for a meeting. I had half an hour of working on the baby to do list in the morning. Then I had to lie on the

It's an adjustment no matter what. But don't forg...

2009-10-24T20:48:20.035-07:00

It's an adjustment no matter what. But don't forget, you're growing a human being inside you! Regardless of how useless you feel right now, you're doing something amazing.

Nesting?

2009-10-24T19:48:44.254-07:00

Nesting?

Waiting sucks...it did during treatments and it do...

2009-10-24T19:46:35.802-07:00

Waiting sucks...it did during treatments and it does now too. Once that miracle is in your arms...time will move at warp speed.

I imagine that the waiting for the babies to pop b...

2009-10-24T16:11:47.171-07:00

I imagine that the waiting for the babies to pop bit can be REALLY hard (or from the blogs I read it sounds like women find it hard) - he'll be here soon!

That's kind of how I feel about summer vacation. ...

2009-10-24T15:16:43.500-07:00

That's kind of how I feel about summer vacation. The first week or so, I'm decompressing from the stress of the end of the year. And then I get bored, even with the projects and stuff I have going on. I miss the structure and the purpose in working. Yet I feel a little guilty for admitting that!

Hang in there!

I hear ya! I'm right there with you. I putz around...

2009-10-24T15:09:06.247-07:00

I hear ya! I'm right there with you. I putz around the house all day and get things done, but at the end of the day feel like I'm just dilly-dallying around and waiting for 1) my husband to come home and 2) this baby to show up.

Being in between is tough! Tiny B will be here so...

2009-10-24T14:28:11.916-07:00

Being in between is tough!

Tiny B will be here soon, and that doesn't mean you won't miss working anymore, but you can focus all your energy on him!

Are you looking at it like it's the end? Maybe if...

2009-10-24T13:29:49.721-07:00

Are you looking at it like it's the end? Maybe if you view it as sort of an extended vacation, you'll adjust better. They might be able to survive without you at work, but they will not flourish! You've only been out a short while and they're already calling you. Soon, you'll be too busy to care, but right now, stop looking at this as a stop in your career. It's just

When I left my job to have my first son, it was we...

2009-10-24T13:25:36.745-07:00

When I left my job to have my first son, it was weird. I left what I knew and the system in which I operated very well (and was happy) to jump off into a completely new paradigm.

You are in limbo right now...but hang in there. Soon it will be defined by Tiny B and motherhood. All of the pieces will fall into place.

You're in purgatory right now - remember that. You...

2009-10-24T09:03:41.934-07:00

You're in purgatory right now - remember that. You're no longer that high functioning power player but you're not yet that nurturing mother. Its not that they need to be totally separate but at the same time its hard knowing everything is about to change but not knowing how you will be changed.

Hang in there - when Tiny B arrives the time will fly by! xoxo