Comments on Bloorb: The Last Worry

Sarah, your comments are so brave, and I give you ...

2009-11-07T07:34:31.459-08:00

Sarah, your comments are so brave, and I give you the utmost respect for actually putting them in writing. For me, admitting this worry was hard because I felt people might slap me on the wrist for it, so I can't imagine how hard it was for you, because as you said, it is a dirty little secret - not one I expected. Thank you for the reality of it.

Totally understandable. And not selfish at all. ...

2009-11-07T07:27:27.886-08:00

Totally understandable. And not selfish at all.

Now that B is here with us, I get worried over all sorts of things to come...car wrecks, falls, etc., etc. The idea that something COULD happen...well, scares me to death.

This is definitely a scary point in pregnancy, but...

2009-11-07T06:42:25.352-08:00

This is definitely a scary point in pregnancy, but you have to trust that if something happens when he's born your hospital can handle it. When we had Lemy her Apgar was low (5) and they had to do it two more times to get her to a 9. It was terrifying. But she's fine, healthy, and so freakin' smart. By best assvice is to just take everything in stride and you'll both be fine. :)

I think about this a lot, actually. I know that a ...

2009-11-06T22:29:08.519-08:00

I think about this a lot, actually. I know that a huge part of being a parent is just doing what has to be done to love and care for your kid, no matter what - but I still end up hoping that my challenges are on the less overwhelming end of the spectrum.

I guess we just cross any of those bridges if we get to them, right?

PS - I can't believe you are ALMOST DONE!

With adoption we had so many worries. It comes wit...

2009-11-06T22:25:45.637-08:00

With adoption we had so many worries. It comes with the territory. In the end you never know what child you will get. But you WILL love him with all your heart. That is the truth.

With adoption we had so many worries. It comes wit...

2009-11-06T22:25:40.001-08:00

With adoption we had so many worries. It comes with the territory. In the end you never know what child you will get. But you WILL love him with all your heart. That is the truth.

One thing at a time!! Since you're not thinking m...

2009-11-06T18:11:04.116-08:00

One thing at a time!! Since you're not thinking much about labor and you're focusing on what comes when the baby arrives, for now, just set your expectations well for what the first six weeks will really be like. The best advice I heard a mother give her pregnant daughter is that she should plan on doing nothing other than breastfeeding and resting the first three months. The pregnant

Oh honey, the worries are just beginning...but it ...

2009-11-06T15:53:33.598-08:00

Oh honey, the worries are just beginning...but it is SO worth it.

I echo what some of the others have said. It's co...

2009-11-06T14:36:18.756-08:00

I echo what some of the others have said. It's completely common at this stage to consider the "what-ifs" in relation to when he is outside vs. inside the womb. I think the issue is, though, that all will not be known at birth and can crop up later and you just have to have faith and believe that you will rise up and meet whatever challenge you might have.

One of my

One of my best friend has twins who are autistic. ...

2009-11-06T14:19:33.478-08:00

One of my best friend has twins who are autistic. She loves her kids to death and would do anything for them. And if you asked her if she could go back and make them UN-autistic? You betcha. She is a fabulous loving parent but she also says that it wasn't what she had signed up for. That doesn't mean she isn't happy with her kids, it's just not what she had planned on, and it

I don't normally comment (I'm a lurker) but felt c...

2009-11-06T12:53:16.447-08:00

I don't normally comment (I'm a lurker) but felt compelled to this time. I am a mother of a special-needs child, and I'm going to let you in a dirty little secret. No one wants a child with special needs. When I was pregnant, I didn't say "Oh, I hope my child is mentally retarded." (he's actually not retarded just an example.)

Anyway, I hear all day long

You are honest with the feelings I tried not to fa...

2009-11-06T12:38:16.727-08:00

You are honest with the feelings I tried not to face.

Que sera, sera, eh? May it be all that you want it to be.

I totally started to have the dreaded "what if????...

2009-11-06T12:12:09.797-08:00

I totally started to have the dreaded "what if?????" thoughts in the last weeks. They were soon replaced with GET HIM OUT thoughts. It's an effing roller coaster.
sooo excited for you guys!

Those worries sound perfectly normal and honest. ...

2009-11-06T12:05:11.582-08:00

Those worries sound perfectly normal and honest. And if we’re being honest at the end when I had too much time on my hands, or was not using the time I had wisely, I started to worry about having an ugly kid, how’s that for selfish.

such normal worries for any pregnant woman, and un...

2009-11-06T11:51:39.653-08:00

such normal worries for any pregnant woman, and unfortunately they just turn into new worries once he's here.

on an exercise-related note: I thought of you when I opened my email this morning to read about a recent study showing that exercise during pregnancy decreased the risk of high birth weight infant by 25%. So, way to go you with continuing to exercise as much as you can--

I definitely understand!

2009-11-06T11:24:35.343-08:00

I definitely understand!

Yeah, I doubt there are any parents out there who ...

2009-11-06T11:14:29.725-08:00

Yeah, I doubt there are any parents out there who say "I hope my child will have special needs." That is a reasonable fear.

Unreasonable fears come after the baby is here...

I'll be hoping that everything will be just fine for you.