Comments on Bloorb: My Little Bugger

First - being a Mom is hard. You can go into it ~...

2010-01-06T11:02:42.445-08:00

First - being a Mom is hard. You can go into it ~knowing~ that, but it really doesn't mean anything until you're doing it. I find I blog about a lot of negative things and when I'm upset and need support because that is my outlet. Somehow the puppy dogs and rainbows get left out.

Our kiddo worked well on a schedule. I found that I could better interpret his cries if I

Rachel, I responded cuz you hit a nerve - both goo...

2010-01-06T08:26:51.653-08:00

Rachel, I responded cuz you hit a nerve - both good and bad.

My original reaction was to say the things some of the others did, because even now, I don't think I was "moaning about this poor baby". I was telling it like it is... mostly.

When I took a step back and re-read what I'd written lately though, I realized I did sound more negative than how I felt

If I may add my two pennies worth.. The only thin...

2010-01-05T07:16:18.624-08:00

If I may add my two pennies worth..

The only thing I was disappinted in after having three babies is the breastfeeding bit, I mean, "they" go on and on about how important mothers milk is but they NEVER tell you it can be that HARD, never once did I read that.

If there is one thing I did learn is that its near impossible to schedule feeds as you can with a bottle.<

I wish someone had told me that no one's baby-...

2010-01-04T18:29:27.005-08:00

I wish someone had told me that no one's baby- well, almost no one's- is textbook, and that it's possible for my child to start cluster feeding from the day of his birth, every hour of the night.

Or that it would be months before he figured night was night and day was day. I swear, it does get better.

Ha. Nice reaction from some of you. chicklet, I f...

2010-01-04T14:21:02.764-08:00

Ha. Nice reaction from some of you.

chicklet, I feel strangely honoured to be replied to. In my blunt way I guess I'm trying to say I hope you are enjoying him. I'm sure you are, and of course I don't want unicorns, I wouldn't be following your blog if I did. Similarly though, I think comments can be good for you to hear from another perspective sometimes.

Having had a little bugger myself, I can tell you ...

2010-01-04T12:04:42.068-08:00

Having had a little bugger myself, I can tell you it gets better. I promise. I swear. It does. One day it will just happen and you'll think why was I so stressed out? You're stressed because this time with an infant is SO FREAKING stressful. People will lie and say that by 1 month they had their child on a schedule and I've come to realize they are either lying or they got a baby that

Rachel, I'm just saying how I feel, and if how...

2010-01-04T08:58:38.351-08:00

Rachel, I'm just saying how I feel, and if how I feel is that this is hard, that's what I'm going to write. However, if all I've written is doom and gloom (I thought I'd written happy ones too?), I'll look at that cuz yea, there is a ton of good with this boy too.

This blog for me though is a record of how things were/are, and I'm not going to sugarcoat that

Those growth spurts are so hard, and the constant ...

2010-01-04T08:46:18.457-08:00

Those growth spurts are so hard, and the constant feeding frequently made me doubt myself and my supply, but it sounds like everything is going just as it should. I know it's not easy. I don't think there's anything anyone can say to prepare you in advance for the experience of parenting, or how it FEELS to be a parent when you're so tired. You're doing great - keep up all

Holy cow. I'm also going to tell Rachel to fuc...

2010-01-04T08:41:14.310-08:00

Holy cow. I'm also going to tell Rachel to fuck off.

Being a mom is HARD. You don't KNOW anything. Seriously, there are FEW THINGS that you actually KNOW about your kid.

The rest is guessing, and talking to other moms, and getting comments from your blog readers.

But I can tell you something. You get used to the not knowing. To making educated guesses.

And I was just thinking to myself this morning, th...

2010-01-04T08:03:58.829-08:00

And I was just thinking to myself this morning, that if anyone ever told me they quit bfing bc of repeated plugged ducts, I would totally understand why (you can guess what my problem is).

It's hard. And it's hard in so many different ways, that it's difficult to explain WHY it's so hard. And once you think you've got SOMETHING figured out, another thing will pop

Rachel, fuck off!!! Having a newborn is fucking ha...

2010-01-04T07:07:56.086-08:00

Rachel, fuck off!!! Having a newborn is fucking hard. This is her space to express whatever she needs to.

BTW, I know "little bugger" is said with great affection.

I can't believe you're moaning about this ...

2010-01-03T23:55:32.765-08:00

I can't believe you're moaning about this poor baby so much, after wanting it so long. We've all been there, of course there are hard nights, but overall it sounds like you are having it a lot easier than most. can we not even have one post where you're actually happy about him? I know you're being tongue in cheek, but it ain't nice to see him repeatedly called a little

I had my ass kicked sideways until three months. I...

2010-01-03T21:37:57.815-08:00

I had my ass kicked sideways until three months. I can tell you with great certainty that it gets much easier then.

1. Breastfeeding just magically got easier!
2. The 9:00 am nap appeared and it was long!
3. They started lasting about three hours between sessions.

The only assvice I will dispense is that cosleeping really made night easier. But I know I am way more

Oh man, does this take me back. There were so ver...

2010-01-03T20:09:51.276-08:00

Oh man, does this take me back. There were so very many times I could have written this post myself. Hang in there. While it is fucking hard (yeah, I said it), you are doing awesome.

I second what everyone else says. And also remindi...

2010-01-03T20:06:56.650-08:00

I second what everyone else says. And also reminding you and myself that the times when the wee ones go nursing crazy are often the way they are working to build up our supply because they are growth spurting or just extra hungry for whatever reason. And so as hard as it is to remember - they are solving the "problem" in advance and we really only need to worry about taking care of

I hear you sister - and times it by 4 months! I ag...

2010-01-03T19:43:57.269-08:00

I hear you sister - and times it by 4 months! I agree with Kathleen that it all sounds totally normal (and I must go read her blog apparently) because for us at almost 5 months we don't utter the "s" word (schedule) because Little Miss has no idea what it means. Some days we're uber productive and feel like we rule the world and on other days she kicks my ass and I feel useless.

Oh, and if you are worried about supply, there is ...

2010-01-03T19:20:34.758-08:00

Oh, and if you are worried about supply, there is a supplement you can take called Fenugreek. It will make your urine smell like maple syrup, but after taking it for two days, I noticed my milk was more consistent in what I was able to pump. I'd ask your pediatrician or OB their advice on it, but mine was the one who recommended it.

Also, we did end up doing a 2 oz supplemental

And that's why people just say that breastfeed...

2010-01-03T19:18:08.548-08:00

And that's why people just say that breastfeeding is hard. You have done a fine job of explaining why and how it is hard.

You're doing a great job, though.

Chicklet. Honey, I think we might have been twins...

2010-01-03T19:14:45.174-08:00

Chicklet.

Honey, I think we might have been twins separated by birth. . . or a few countries and years, but whatever.

I remember all of these fears and more. That each decision I made was going to ruin my precious little bub. Life with a newborn was so. much. harder than I had ever anticipated. It was wonderful. . . and it sucked . . . all at once.

I had lots

I don't think you're going to believe this...

2010-01-03T19:00:59.966-08:00

I don't think you're going to believe this but... this all sounds perfectly NORMAL. Honestly. Hang in there, try to let go of expectations, and if anything, just expect the unexpected. Most babies, even mine and his friends at almost 9 months old, still aren't all too interested in a schedule (regarding anything: feeding, sleep, pooping, etc.). Sure it does get easier to predict